Dear Abby: Man uses family gas money to buy tattoo

DEAR ABBY: My household simply got here again from a relative’s after a weekend go to. The event was a birthday celebration, and he had a tattoo artist come over. My boyfriend — the daddy of our 14- and 3-year-olds — spent our final $100 and went forward and bought himself a tattoo! We aren’t wealthy, and we needed to borrow cash for fuel to get house.

I believe he’s essentially the most egocentric individual on the face of the planet, and I get mad at him for each different little factor now. I am unable to think about many grownup males would try this to their accomplice. I do know just a few who would even say, “No, Honey, YOU get one thing. I can wait.” Is there any hope for mankind? — MARK OF DISASTER IN WASHINGTON

DEAR MARK OF DISASTER: There may be loads of hope for mankind; for the daddy of your 14- and 3-year-olds, perhaps not a lot. Was he beneath the affect at that social gathering, or does he make poor selections about cash typically?

That tatt is now a continuing reminder of your disappointment in him, so I hope it is in a spot the place you do not have to see it every single day or evening. You have got my sympathy, however you selected this individual as a life accomplice.

DEAR ABBY: My mother and father have been collectively for greater than three a long time, however their marriage has been strained for years. Nonetheless, they will not pull the plug and name it quits. It is making us youngsters (all in our 20s and out of the home) and our prolonged household confused and pissed off.

They nonetheless reside beneath one roof, though they spend all of their time in separate elements of the home and talk solely via us youngsters. They’re clearly depressing, but when any of us tries to talk to them about their poisonous dynamic, each blames the opposite. Abby, I like each of my mother and father, however they’re turning into shells of themselves. I do know it is not my enterprise to step in, however one thing has to alter. I am unable to deal with one other tense vacation go to. What ought to I do? — CONCERNED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CONCERNED: You and your siblings ought to sit down along with your mother and father and inform them the impact their poisonous dynamic has had on you as a household. All of it is best to urge them to hunt counseling from a licensed marriage and household therapist. Then cross your fingers and hope they’re prepared to observe via. Nonetheless, if they don’t seem to be and you’ll’t deal with one other tense vacation go to, I like to recommend you make different plans and inform them why.

DEAR ABBY: I’m 13. Three years in the past, I used to be in a automobile accident that left me in a wheelchair. I’ve been capable of transfer on in life and am joyful and have plenty of pals who assist me keep energetic in sports activities, and many others. My downside is, I had a buddy earlier than my accident who moved away, and I am certain he would not know his as soon as greatest buddy can now not stroll.

I simply heard his household is transferring again right here, and I am unsure tips on how to deal with this. Ought to I contact him earlier than the transfer, or wait and be like, “Oh, by the best way”? Do you’ve any recommendation? — WONDERING IN NEW YORK

DEAR WONDERING: The information is certain to be a shock. When you’ve got this younger man’s contact info, I vote for letting him know upfront in regards to the accident. And whilst you’re at it, fill him in on what you’ve been doing since he left city.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.